Divorces suck--even when it's the best thing in the world for you. You lose half your family. You lose half your friends. You lose someone that at one point in your life was your very best friend. You have people who think the very worst of you without having been in your shoes or even bothering to wonder what it was like in your shoes. You have to start over. You lose your IDENTITY.  Yeah, you get to a point where you are able to start over, but there is still all that history you have to leave behind. I miss hanging out with my old family. I miss the friends who chose "the other side".